I was going to run away

The other night my 7 year old daughter kept trying to argue about something.  I used my new Love and Logic skill of not engaging and calmly replied “I know.”  She ended with “What is wrong with you!!” I replied again, “I know.” She yelled “Ugh!” and ran off. The next morning she comes down [...]

What To Do About Kids Fighting In The Car?

You’ll love this story one of my coaching clients told me about using delayed consequences on her 8 yr old twin girls.  She stopped trying to figure out an immediate consequence in the heat of the moment and used her new skill from parenting coaching: Delayed Consequences. I was anxious to try what we talked about today.  [...]

Dad Withdraws From the Son’s Choice Account

Choices work with kids because you’re sharing power.  Every “effective” choice you give puts deposits in kids power accounts.  An often overlooked “Guideline for Giving Effective Choices” taught in the Love and Logic parenting courses is the “withdrawal from the account.”  Here is a great story of a dad who used this skill with his 9 [...]

“Does That Mean No?”

Here is a story of a mom in my class who learned a new skill to not engage with kids when they’re protesting a limit.  That skill is called “brain dead.”  This works with all age kids.  See what happens when she uses it to  neutralize the “buy it for me” battle…… My 9 year old boy and I were at Walmart In the [...]

Sibling Rivalry with Twins

(reprinted from Janada Clark, Clear Path Coaching) Here is a story of a Dad that showed great creativity in the use of the Energy Drain tool. Who would of thought of sending a picture through email of the good time his daughter was MISSING because of her misbehavior? He did and more. Also notice how [...]

Find out what happens when you flush Legos

Here’s how one mom used her Love and Logic skills when her son did an experiment…. My 12 year old son and his friend decided it would be fun to see what would happen if they flushed some Legos down the toilet.  Needless to say, the toilet clogged.  This was a real bummer for him because I [...]

How to Pull Kids Away From Video Games

Enjoy this success story by one of the single Dad’s that took my “Becoming a Love and Logic Parent®” class this spring…  _________________________________________ I had a really funny but awesome Love and Logic experience happen earlier today. Simply stated…… the allowance approach is amazing. My son is now 5 1/2 years old and has an allowance which is [...]

Connor Forgets His Snack

We had been struggling to keep second grade Connor focused on his “morning school routine” list as he is a major dawdler, as most are. So one morning I realized both my husband and I were reminding him of checking his list, “Do you have your snack? Have you made your lunch?  Where’s your water bottle, etc”. [...]

Watchers or Doers

Originally published 1/25/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. What does your child ask when bored? Is it, “I’m bored. What can I do?” or is it, “I’m bored. What can I watch?” If it is the latter, you are raising a future watcher, not a future doer. And if this is the case, my [...]

Who is the Servant?

Originally published 7/1/09 by the Love and Logic® Institute. Fido goes to the door. We follow his command and let him out. He comes back to the door. We follow his command and let him in. He brings his food bowl. We follow his command and feed him. Before long he learns who issues the [...]

Giving Choices Can Be Fun!

Originally published 1/18/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. I almost always do a lousy job of giving choices when I’m tired, frustrated, and trying to think of them on the spot. Are you like me? I’ve seen how much smoother life becomes when I give appropriate choices…but for some reason I get out of [...]