Watchers or Doers
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Elementary, Keeping Your Cool, Love and Logic™, Parenting, Parenting Challenges, Power Struggles, Teens
Originally published 1/25/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. What does your child ask when bored? Is it, “I’m bored. What can I do?” or is it, “I’m bored. What can I watch?” If it is the latter, you are raising a future watcher, not a future doer. And if this is the case, my [...]
The Trust Card
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Keeping Your Cool, Love and Logic™, Parenting Styles, Relationships to Last a Lifetime, Teens, What Do I Do Now?
Originally published 11/08/2006. Teenagers often pull out the trust card defense. It sounds like, “Don’t you trust me?” or “You don’t trust me.” Believe me. When they say this they have something to hide. So the best parental response is, “You’re right. That’s my job. You can trust that I will do everything I can [...]
“Did You Do Drugs?”
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Parenting, Parenting Challenges, Teens, What Do I Do Now?
Originally published 2/22/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. “Hey, Dad. Did you and Mom do drugs when you were young?” Look out, parents! This is not a simple childhood question. This is a kid looking for some leverage and a way to get some tacit approval for drug use. This is a kid looking [...]
You Don’t Need to Apologize
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Consequences, Parenting, Teens, What Do I Do Now?
Originally published 1/31/07 by the Love and Logic® Institute. After several discussions about the dangers of giving out any personal information on the Internet, Mom designed her own secret email address pretending to be an older boy. To her amazement she was able to contact her own daughter, who not only gave out her personal [...]
How Nana Nixed the Naughty Word
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Common Problems, Keeping Your Cool, Love and Logic™, Parenting, Parenting Challenges, Power Struggles, Toddlers
Originally published 4/19/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. Little kids can be clever. It`s fun to make them put their brains to work. One mom told me her son had gotten into the habit of using an unacceptable phrase. All her lecturing and punishing didn`t work. Then he made the mistake of using it [...]
When Kids Hate the Rules
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Consequences, Keeping Your Cool, Love and Logic™, Parenting, Parenting Challenges, Teens
Originally published 1/17/06 by the Love and Logic® Institute. “It’s not fair! That dress code is bogus, man. The principal never asked the kids what they think before making that stupid rule. How can I like, express my individuality if I have to wear what the teachers like? You and some of the other moms [...]
Some Thoughts on Parenting With Words
August 16, 2009 by Kerry Stutzman
Filed under Blog, Love and Logic™, Parenting Styles, Relationships to Last a Lifetime, Teens
Originally published 12/14/05 by the Love and Logic® Institute. Those familiar with Love and Logic know that we’re big on kids learning life’s critical lessons by making lots of affordable mistakes and experiencing the affordable consequences of such mistakes. We’re not so big on trying to teach important lessons through lectures…or lots of words. The [...]
