Batman versus Spiderman

This is too funny not to share.  I have been using “I love you too much to argue with you” with my almost 4 year old son.  Last night I was doing dishes and listening to my son have an epic battle between Batman and Spiderman.  There were lots of sound effects and crashes and [...]

Consequence: Give Kids a Chance to Problem Solve

Sometimes the best consequence for a problem is just to “hand it back” to them.  Read how well this mom used the skill with her daughter. The girls and I had gotten out our seasonal clothes in preparation of going to a Fall Festival.  A bit later, my 7 year old came to me and said [...]

I Should Have Eaten My Dinner

Another success story shared about how kids learn best from Empathy and Experience. My 3 year old daughter is a fussy eater.  We told her, ” You need to take 3 more bites.” She said “No” and tried to manipulate us into feeding her, changing our minds, changing food… We decided to use our new Love and [...]

Shopping Tantrums – “I Want That Toy”

This was posted as a comment to my “I want the big cookie” success story, but I had to highlight this success story as it again shows me how amazing our kids are in their respond when we can CALMLY hold a limit FIRM. I had a very similar experience at Kohls not too long [...]

I Want the Big Cookie

How do you hold the limit firm and stay calm, especially when the child throws a tantrum in protest?  Read the skills this mom used and the happy ending…… When I grocery shop with my 4 year old daughter, I let her pick a small cookie from the top 2 rows of the shelf. This [...]

It Worked Like a Charm

  Thank you, thank you, thank you.  I have  been reading and re-reading the information you’ve sent me and last night I had  an opportunity to use it.  It worked like a charm!! My teenage niece was  arguing with me.   There was no end in sight. Then I said: “Love you too much to argue.” [...]

Mom’s Word is Gold

One mom shared with me  her day turning her word into gold.  Here’s what she said:   “I only give dessert to girls who share.” “I only play games with girls who brush their teeth.” “Mommy only plays superman with boys in their PJ’s.  (No more battle over PJ’s)” “Little boys who don’t put on sunscreen, don’t [...]

Withdrawal from the Power Bank

  Parents always ask me, “What happens when I give my child a choice and she says “no”, or just ignores me ?” Here is one of four backup skills you can use.  This one is called “make a withdrawal.”     When it was time to leave our friends house after dinner, I asked my 4 year [...]

It’s time to go…I mean it!

You’ll love this story about a dad experiencing the difference in the effectiveness of choices versus the threats, warnings, and reminders.    Addison, my 4 year old daughter, and I were at the park. When we arrived the first thing I noticed was a frustrated mother telling her 3-4 year old son “It’s time to go, I’m not kidding!” [...]

Fill in the Gaps with Coaching

We read Love & Logic for Preschoolers book, but your coaching session filled in so many gaps.   Both Mary and I are getting to the place where we are not afraid of Eli’s bad decisions.  Just today Mary set the limit, Eli threw a fit and she still held the limit.  He stopped his fit and did [...]

How to Teach Your Child to Calm Down

The Uh Oh Song is a consequence skill that I teach from the Love and Logic program.  It’s based on teaching kids how to calm down.  Read how this mom successfully used this skill for her strong-willed 4 year old, and if you want to learn more, schedule your Free Parent Tuneup phone consultation by clicking here. My [...]

I’m Not Going to Karate Class

Jennifer shares her story of using cooperation skills with her pre-teen… My  12 year old daughter didn’t want to go to Karate class.  She protested and complained and I responded with my brain dead mantra “I know,” and my empathetic “Bummer that you’re not feeling up to it today – sometimes that happens.” All the way [...]

Does Love and Logic work 18 mo old kids?

After taking the classes this mom reported how she implemented the skills with her daughter.  Thanks for sharing….. My 18-month-old daughter loves to test me by climbing on the entertainment center.  I said, “Violet, please don’t climb on the entertainment center.  I don’t want you to get hurt.  Thank you for understanding; I really appreciate [...]

Consequences:Remove the Child or Remove the Adult?

In the Love and Logic classes, we teach the “3 Removes” for your first plan of action for effective consequences.  Read how this worked for Lane and her young daughter….  I have safety plugins in all the outlets, but it still makes me nervous when my 14 month old crawls over to the outlets.  I would [...]

I Rock at Parenting!

It’s such a great feeling to feel good about your parenting skills. Thanks Heather for sharing your success story!….. I was grocery shopping  with my 27 mo old son.  First, I asked him if he wanted to ride in the cart or walk. When he chose walk, I used my enforceable statements “feel free to [...]

But I Don’t Want To….

We were heading to Karate class when my 12 year old daughter announced that she didn’t want to go to Karate class.  She protested and complained and I responded with my brain dead mantra “I know,” and “Bummer that you’re not feeling up to it today – sometimes that happens…” All the way to the [...]

Let Me Help You Get Your Energy Back

My 4 year old son and his friend were taking a bath.  I asked them to play quietly while I put his baby brother down for a nap.  When I came back they were shouting and splashing.   I was so proud of myself that I didn’t react with anger, but instead used empathy and [...]

Mommy, I Like Your New Rules!

I decided to try the Love and Logic’s  “Uh Oh Song”  that I learn in class.  I came home and told my 4 year old   daughter that we were implementing some new rules in the house.  Soon after she misbehaved and I sang, “Uh Oh, so sad, looks like you need a little quiet time [...]

45 Minute Teen Shower

Story shared with me at the Colorado PTA convention: My teenage daughter was taking 45 minute showers.  I’d yell and scream at her that she was wasting water.  I’d lecture that her showers were too long and nothing detered her. Finally, I decided to replace action with threats and said “Sweetie, you get 15 minutes [...]

Turn Your “No” into a “Yes”

This Love and Logic skill worked so great for Heather  to tame her 2 year old’s tantrums, I asked her to share her story: ‎1. In car he screamed for crackers and I said, “Yes! You can have crackers when we get home.” Usually he has a fit, not this time. 2. At nap he asked [...]

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